- Praying about everything makes all the difference to having a fulfilling singlehood and then marriage. It is very difficult to get it wrong when you put God first and acknowledge Him in every area of your singlehood. (The Five Star Single)
- Maximize your singlehood by growing spiritually, professionally, mentally, emotionally, financially etc. Do not waste your singlehood, GROW! (Understanding Your Season)
- Guard your heart from the pressures, people and places that do not understand the season of your singlehood. Work on your self-development, Focus on yourself and Mind your business. (Understanding Your Season)
- Watch your circle of friends or relationship network, not anyone who relates with you will deserve your lifetime commitment (De-toxify)
- Be careful with what you see, hear or do on social media, the less time you spend on frivolous things the more beneficial unless you have a significant course that you are championing (De-Toxify)
- Have trustworthy role models, mentors , people who have gone ahead of you from which you can learn, confide in, pray with, guide you in making unbiased decisions in life, this also helps for accountability (The Gift of Mentorship)
- Institute Boundaries in your life, as a single lady or man, what are the no go areas or do not rules in your life that will help to keep you in check as well as prevent the wrong people from coming into your life. When there are no standards some things will go wrong. (The Mystery of the X-factor)
- Service is a pathway to living a purposeful singlehood, as a young person the heart of service will open doors for you as well as direct you into your areas of competence and significance. Who are the people you are serving , most especially How are you serving God with your life before it’s too late. (Singlehood and Purpose)
- Trust God through the process, if you have prayed about any area of your future and yet to get results, please don’t give up on God. Most times what we see as delay could be only a blessing in disguise. It is through patience and faith that we obtain the promise/reward. There is a peace of mind that comes when we trust God through the journey no matter how smooth or stormy it seems (Singlehood and Purpose)
- Take steps of faith, in my own case it was Leaps of Faith. Sometimes you have to do crazy things that will question your reasoning but validates your faith in God. You may not see the how or when or where but under God as you keep making faith moves, God will honour your belief in Him by making a way where there is none. Start planning & preparing for that dream you are praying about (Singlehood and Purpose)
- Learn to let go of the past by forgiving and dealing with any hurt that can keep you bound. It is difficult to receive what lies ahead by holding on to the past. I believe, your ability to handle emotional issues rightly as a single helps prepare you for a better and glorious marital relationship (Deal with the emotional baggage) (Deal with it)
- I learnt that life is not a competition, that celebrating with others who are doing so will not stop my own from happening, and knowing when you should prioritize self-respect for people who don’t deserve your applause. Please, mind your business and run your race ( Understanding Your Season)
- Learn from your mistakes and move on, yes in life there are road bumps on your way to the promise land and sometimes we trip, we can have a flat tyre or even fall down flat. No matter how heart broken, wasted(time, finance, opportunities), blunders you have committed…Learn and Move On. A mistake or unfulfilled milestone does not define you, do not be too hard on yourself, do not give up on yourself when God has not given up on you, it is not about how many times you fall but how many times you pick up yourself and keep moving forward or making progress. (Deal with it)
- Identify your tribe, people who do not judge you or give up on you but are willing to go with you all the way, who firmly tell you the truth whether it is palatable or not. People who do not come with a negative energy around you and they help you feel good about yourself, married or not (Self-esteem) (De-toxify)
- Gratitude! Gratitude! Gratitude! It is difficult to be depressed and grateful at the same time. A thankful person is a thoughtful person and gratitude is powerful.
- I learnt to quit chasing the next relationship or being hooked up to start chasing after God and being hooked up with God and that was the defining moment, my turning point and when God took over the wheels to handle things in His own way at His own time etc. (The Mystery of the X-factor)
- I learnt to embrace and enjoy my singlehood while it last. There is some level of prejudice and stigmatization towards being single that so many people are in a hurry to get into the next phase of life which is actually worth looking forward to. However, do you realize that you are only single once and your singlehood is a gift from God to you and if you focus so much on the future may miss the moment of the present. Do not let the discrimination of people rob you of todays joy and glory. (Understanding your singlehood)
- It’s important you have defined standards and clear cut roles or agenda while dating or in a relationship before you commence the journey together. This is important and helps to direct your journey together , instead of chasing many things or doing anything. Helps for guidance and a whole lot more ( The Five Star Single)
- I learnt to wait for my change, sometimes we want to control and make things happen by any human means for ourselves. There is an appointed time for every good thing God wants to do and to takes grace to wait. Making things happen for yourself can be detrimental sometimes so wait for your Change in God for it will surely come. Sometimes we mistake Gods patience for absence and delays as denials but when your appointed time comes no force in the universe can stop you. Wait for your change for it will surely come! (Singlehood and Purpose)
- Congratulations as you transit into the next glorious phase of your life from being single to married, remember it is not a destination but a continuum so keep practising all you learnt that helped you have a rewarding and fulfilling singlehood. It can only get better
- God can be trusted!